Talking about failure is never easy for anyone, let alone someone whose life and business are focussed on helping others achieve success for themselves. And while it's widely acknowledged that anyone who has achieved and sustained success in life, in work, in business, has also accumulated a lot of failure along the way, we still do tend to steer away from admitting failure, or from associating with someone who we know has failed...let alone seek their advice on business success.
Yes, I’ve had a lot of success in my life, in my career, as a CFO, as a GM, as a business owner, as a business fixer and as a business coach.
But I’ve also had my failures.
And it is one of my biggest failures that taught me the biggest lesson of my life…and why today I feel completely confident and comfortable as a Business Coach, helping others to not just succeed, but to Make a Difference.
A few years back, a client asked me to step in to “right” his business after he had tried unsuccessfully, on 2 occasions, to hand over the reigns of this 40+ year old family business to a professional General Manager. On both occasions the appointments had proved unsuccessful and so he asked me as a trusted adviser to step in to reverse the fortunes of the business and rescue it from near financial collapse.
I did, and together we turned that business around. I was ready to leave and told the owner as much (3 times over a number of months), but my ego got the better of me when he asked me to stick around and grow the business. And here is when things became unstuck.
I was successful, I was a “Directive” leader , someone who was studied and experienced in business, in what worked and what didn’t. Highly analytical, I prided myself on deeply understanding every aspect of the business. And so, “I knew best”.
Technically, and to this day I remain confident, I was right.
But the funny thing about business is that “Technically” is only a part of the challenge. There is a minor technicality that can get in the way of the best laid plans…a minor thing called PEOPLE.
Even the very best laid plans are worth zip, zero, zilch, if the people who are a part of putting the plan in place are not on board. Maybe they don’t understand the plan, maybe they don’t agree with the plan, maybe they don’t feel motivated to work for you or the plan, maybe they have an ego too, maybe they aren’t just not on board but perhaps they even want the plan to fail.
There are so many possibilities when it comes to OTHER people.
And that was my mistake. I genuinely believed that if the plan made sense, could be logically argued, if everyone could have the opportunity to meet and discuss and challenge the plan and have their concerns and challenges answered, even have their suggestions considered, that everyone could be brought on board and the plan could be executed.
WRONG!
No matter how hard I tried, and regardless of the position I held as General Manager, some of the key players simply were not in any way even remotely interested in supporting the plan. In fact, some even worked actively to make the plan fail. And I could look to them as the problem…and for a time I DID consider them the problem…and no doubt they were A problem. But the real problem lay with me…as it so often does with most businesses, lay with the owner or person in charge.
Needless to say, when I had finally had enough of trying to turn the tide. When I decided I needed to take some time out to figure some things out for myself, on my fourth attempt to leave, the owner agreed. Funny that.
So I took a 6-month sabbatical to figure out “Who I Am and What’s Important to Me”. In fact that is exactly what I told my wife I wanted to do and to my complete amazement and surprise, she agreed instantly that it was the right thing to do and she supported me wholeheartedly.
That’s a lesson in itself. If your partner can be that supportive of you and it surprises you (because you don’t expect unquestioned agreement) even though it shouldn’t, then you’ve got a pretty good partnership happening.
But that’s not the moral of the story.
Turning Failure Into Success